Monday, December 29, 2008

wow they start them young

Today I was at the mall with Ireland and a friend of mine and we were seated at the food court eating next to a mother and her 3 children (only know cause she was conversing with my friend) and this little girl who later told Ireland she was 6 was telling Ireland all of the wonderful things she had gotten for Christmas. After a minute she stopped and said

"wait I almost forgot my most favorite gift ever, I can't believe I forgot to tell you"!
Ireland was like "what, what"????

The kid "a kit that you do on your computer that lets you plan your very own wedding for when you grow up and get married. You can pick everything like the dresses and the flowers and the cake and what the boy will look like and everything".

Ireland " you can pick everything"

little girl everything!

Ireland looks at her and says so you can decide if you want to marry a boy or a girl?

The little girl no that's stupid I can't marry a girl I am a girl , I can only marry a boy

(The little girls mom kind of laughed a little but started to look a little nervous probably thinking me and my friend were a same sex couple or something)

Ireland looks right at the little girl and says
" that's the dumbest thing I ever heard, you can marry who ever you want when I grow up I'm gonna marry a boy and a girl and I'm gonna buy 2 houses one for me and the kids and one for the boy and girl that I marry so they don't get lonely. When I want to see them or the kids want to see them they can come over but when they get cranky I can kick them out and be by myself".

The little girl was like that's so dumb you can't marry 2 people and you have to live with them and it can only be a boy.

Ireland oh yeah well your only 6 and I'm 8 and I know more and trust me that game is lying to you because you can marry whoever you want and you do not have to stay married to them or live with them and I know that because my mom and dad do not live together but they still are pretty much married and my aunt has a girlfriend she is going to marry and my cousin has a boyfriend he is going to marry and my mom said I can marry whoever I want and she wont care because she loves me and wants me to be happy and if your mom wants you to only marry a boy but you want to marry a girl then she does not want you to be happy

This conversation embarrased me at first especially because the girls mother was shooting me the shut your kid up look but at the end of the day I love that Ireland has not been brainwashed like most children her age into thinking they have to get married and if they're a girl they need a man and that they should compromise their happiness to marry someone they don't want to be with to make others happy. Although I have many moment in which it greatly makes me nervous knowing how opinionated Ireland is and how willing she is to share it at the end of the say I'm glad she has her own opinions and not the ones that a lot of parents force on their kids.

Tuesday, December 2, 2008

Irelands conversation with grandpa

Grandpa "Ireland honey what do you want for x mas?"
Ireland "Hmmm, I don't know Grandpa, maybe a movie. I know they're expensive though so let me think of something cheaper''.
Grandpa "Honey Grandpa can afford it, he has a lot of money".
Ireland ''okay then, can I have a new vcr instead?''

This convo made me feel good for a couple reasons. First of all because as spoiled as Ireland is and I mean this kid seriously has everything (her old vcr broke so thats why she needs a new one), she still doesn't expect the world. This is point one for me and a loss of one for Greg because he insists constantly that the amount of stuff this kid gets will turn her into a horrible spoiled brat. Second of all it makes me feel good that Ireland is becoming the type of person who can obviously realize that not everyone can afford expensive things and it may not be realistic to ask everyone for a vcr so she tweaked what she wanted so that she didn't upset my dad and asked for something she thought he could afford. What I don't get is why my father is asked for a dvd when he is a lot more financially comfortable then Greg and I and we were asked fr a $200 guitar and lessons....oh well lol.